Hi, Glad you stopped in to read About Get Out Of Our Own Way. Let’s work together to help one another avoid our self-imposed pitfalls that prevent us from reaching our goals and full potential in life.

Many of us have a common enemy. When we look in the mirror there he/she is staring at us. It’s he/she who is generally the one who tells us things that are NOT true and is the one most responsible for standing in our way preventing us from doing and being what we really want.

In order to conquer this enemy we may need the help of others who can see things we are not able to see. In turn we may be able to see things that others are unable to see. The best way to conquer him/her is to find ways to empower him/her by putting him/her to work for us instead of against us.Bob Lynch


MY STORY

My name is Bob. I’m the first of eight siblings. All of them have names that begin with K. I was named after our dad and I am a junior. That’s why my name does not begin with K. Therefore, my siblings call me KBob or Kabob.

For most of my life I’ve pretty much tried to forge ahead, trying to learn as I go. The problem is, many times I’ve either learned incorrectly or incompletely. Other times, I’ve thought I knew more than I did. There have also been many times that I figured I’m smart enough to “figure it out” without any prior knowledge at all.

Sometimes everything has worked out well. More often than not, things either somehow worked out, although vastly different than intended or I’ve made a complete mess of things.

For example, I dropped out of college at age 18, believing it wouldn’t help me. I figured I was smart and capable enough to do just about anything, which may or may not be true.

By the time I was 47 I’d been divorced, failed in business twice, was deeply in debt and in bankruptcy. Those are merely the highlights (or lowlights).

At age 48, I returned to college, earned a bachelors degree, teaching credential, and masters degree by the age of 55 and I was debt free with money in the bank. I began teaching at age 52.

As I write this, a few months shy of age 64, I no longer have a full time teaching position, I’ve been remarried and divorced, and once again, I’m deeply in debt. Also, once again, those are only the highlights (or lowlights).

On the flip side I’ve been blessed with good health and for some reason, unexplained, extended youth. Believe it or not, my future looks bright.

Like everyone, there are positive and negative things about me.

It’s not that I haven’t tried to do the right thing(s) and it’s not that I’m simply a slow learner at times, although it’s not to say I’m a whiz either. The single, key reason for my many pitfalls has been either my seemingly unwillingness or inability to get out of my own way.


WHY I WANT TO HELP OTHERS

I could be wrong but I doubt I’m the only one with a colorful/checkered past who stands in his or her own way.
I have an innate desire to help others which is one reason I became a teacher. It kind of runs in my family as my late father was a teacher. I have a sister who’s a retired teacher. I also have a sister-in-law who’s been teaching for about 20 years, and whose husband, my brother, is a musician who teaches music.

The common thread we seem to all share is that it feels good to be able to pass information to someone who can and will benefit from it. There is something magical about seeing someone have an aha moment–that moment when they get it and the light goes on. To be instrumental in that process is wonderful.

Additionally, I have found that one of the best ways to learn something is to teach it. Before becoming a teacher I was in sales. I’ve had to make sales presentations about things I had no prior knowledge about. To avoid embarrassment and because of a certain level of pride, I would make sure I at least knew enough to talk intelligently about what I was going to present.

However, let me clear. I’m not necessarily always the teacher. I’ve also found that helping others often helps me. Furthermore, for some reason the “student” is often the “teacher” and vice versa.

The bottom line is, in a macro sense, the more people attempting to be altrustic the more it creates an atmosphere of synergy.

No one knows everything. We need each other. As much as some try to be 100% independent, it’s not realistic. On the other hand, some people are way more dependent on others than they need to be or should be. It’s about interdependence. It makes the world a better place.


THE GOAL OF THIS SITE

I want to reach and connect with others who can relate to what I’ve written here, who also have a history and/or habit of standing in their own way.

By sharing our experience, strength, and hope with one another, perhaps we can help one another avoid our common enemy–ourselves.

If I am able to help someone by sharing what NOT to do, I will do it and encourage others to do the same.

In addition, by reviewing products, services and ideas that we find useful and/or helpful, we can recommend them to one another as well as warn one another of some of the evils that lurk everywhere.

For example, if you are at all interested in learning more about internet marketing or affiliate marketing, and/or if you have any interest in starting an online business, I highly recommend Wealthy Affiliate.

I invite you to visit the site often and learn more about Get Out Of Our Own Way.

If I can be of assistance, if you ever need a hand or have ay questions, feel free to leave comments/questions below and I will be more than happy to help you out.

All the best

  1. Hey Bob,

    Thanks for sharing your personal story, I found your post very personal and heart-warming. I totally agree that sometimes the worst enemy we may have is ourselves, far too often we tend to put ourselves down too much and unnecessarily. I’m looking forward to reading your blog posts about what to avoid!

    Cheers,
    Anh

    P.S. Wealthy Affiliate is an awesome program. Thanks for sharing!

  2. Wow, you have been through a lot and you are pretty brave to share both of you “lowlights”. I think this is great actually. I can see many people benefitting and avoiding the same pitfalls, just by reading your blog! I have been researching Wealthy Affiliate for quite some time actually. I did become a member years ago, but associated with all the scams that I also tried. Now, years later I see that they are still around and have great reviews. I think it is time to give them a try!

    • Hi Matt’s Mom,

      Thanks for your reply.  I hope to connect with others who have their own yet similar or at least have stories that we can all relate to/with.  You won’t be disappointed with WA.  If you haven’t already taken advantage of the trial membership, I recommend that that’s where you begin. You’ll have a full week to try it on for size without any commitment.  I’ll be glad to be your personal guide.  Let me know if I can be of help.

      Bob

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